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​Lots of Old Age; Not Much Growing

9/1/2025

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In living things (beings), growth implies change and development, usually in the form of an increase or expansion. Why then do we refer to the process of aging with the seemingly contradictory phrase “growing old?” 

We begin to shrink physically past a certain age -- say, fifty or so. Instead of growing, expanding, and maturing, we diminish, contract, and overripen. Where then is one to find the growth that aging apparently provides? 

It takes little rumination to understand that growing old should refer to the spiritual—that we should use old age to focus on changing, developing, and expanding our spirit; on reflecting on our mortal lives and our memories; on learning lessons yet unlearned; on tying up loose ends and neglected frays from our mortal relationships; on preparing and building up our “self”, our true “self”, for resurrected life. 

Very few elders today appear to understand this, which helps explain the ubiquity of septuagenarians (and older!) saturating the System via politics, corporations, finance, the military, NGOs, boards, churches, and organizations of every imaginable kind. A half-rotten cornucopia overflowing with individuals in the grips of glaring physical and mental decline, yet all still doggedly determined to grow, increase, and expand something; that is, everything but the spirit. 

Some might suggest that this overabundance of the aged in public life and positions of power has everything to do with the accrued wisdom such individuals have to offer.

To this I say, when was the last time you heard any System old timer say anything that was even remotely astute? In fact, when was the last time you heard any general old person say something sagacious or act wisely? 

I’m not saying such individuals do not exist, but they are becoming increasingly rare, and that reveals something deeply unsettling about what’s left of our so-called culture and civilization, to say nothing of our fundamental metaphysical assumptions, or lack thereof.  
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jerry tulio
9/2/2025 06:08:54

The idea that old people in general are wise has never been anything more than a method for unwise old people to control the young. Only the wise are wise.

Psalm 119:99-100 I have more understanding than all my teachers: for thy testimonies are my meditation. I understand more than the ancients (i.e. elders), because I keep thy precepts.

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bruce g charlton
9/2/2025 08:42:51

Points well made - growth as well as decline/ delay.

I liked your list of the tasks of old age - "changing, developing, and expanding our spirit; on reflecting on our mortal lives and our memories; on learning lessons yet unlearned; on tying up loose ends and neglected frays from our mortal relationships; on preparing and building up our “self”, our true “self”, for resurrected life. " it's sometimes hard to remember some of these.

Letting go of resentments is another task. Just yesterday I was talking to my wife about something, and I realized from the way I spoke that I'd been carrying grudges against a few people (who I regard as having mistreated me) these last 40 plus years - despite never having seen or knowing anything about them! It's long overdue to let go this kind of stuff.

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Francis Berger
9/2/2025 12:30:25

@ Bruce - "Letting go of resentments is another task."

Yes. I've been focusing on that quite a bit these past few years, all while trying my best not to accrue new ones. Or at least becoming aware of the ones I have accrued recently.

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Laeth
9/2/2025 12:43:28

great post. very true. this phenomenon of trying to extend youth, rather than actually growing and embracing what each season in one's life has to offer and what we can learn from it, always grated me. possibly because i have always been a little 'old' and curmudgeony even when i was younger.

it made me think of Masanobu Fukuoka, when he says that fruit is actually at his best and fully ripe when it starts to shrivel. meaning that its peak is not at visual perfection, but a little later. birds and bugs and critters know this. and i feel like it applies to more than fruit.

there is glory to every age, but when people do not grow spiritually, and try to hold on to an unshrivelled exterior like refrigerated fruit past its prime, they miss the ripening inside and go straight to rot.

again, amazing post.

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Francis Berger
9/2/2025 20:57:47

Thanks, Laeth. Much appreciated.

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Adam link
9/3/2025 06:58:06

Hi Francis,

There is a great little book called "How to Grow Old" by Cicero. It chimes in nicely with what you have written here.

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Francis Berger
9/3/2025 09:29:08

Ah, yes. I'd forgotten all about that one. Thanks, Adam!

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Clifford Rote
9/3/2025 12:07:55

Hello Francis. You have touched upon a very important topic: the prevalence of Seniors who have not reached an Elder level of (Christian) maturity. Elder Maturity is defined in The Life Model, and is earned through particular life tasks rather than accrued merely by growing old. Please search on Amazon for Growing We the People: 3 (Growing a More Human Community) by Jim Wilder. This is the 3rd volume of a 3-book series. Book 3 deals with Elders. The other two books deal with Child and Adult maturity. I can provide you a brief (8-page) document describing these books and the concepts upon which they are based. Books also available on UK Amazon. Thank you for your blog! Cliff, American Romantic Christian living in UK with English Wife.

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NLR
9/3/2025 22:49:21

I'm not old by age but sometimes I feel old because of how much things have changed. I don't feel any wiser from that though.

Unfortunately, many older people seem to be preoccupied with projections of a future that will never come, rather than doing what they can in the present.

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